Wellness Wednesday, May 31, 2017

Mental Health, Memorial, Rant 

We all know that Memorial Day was Monday, and although both my parents served in the military during WWII, my father was actually a POW of the Japanese, and he also served in Korea, my focus is on the two young men who died too young due to drunk drivers. 

Junior, the dark headed one, was born in 1976. Before his 15th birthday, he was killed in a one car crash, June 9, 1991. It was a Sunday morning, and I will never forget that day. He was my baby… the joker of the family. My entire world imploded. 

Four years later, June 24, 1995, his brother, James, was also killed when he was struck by a motorcyclist who had been drinking, at 90+ miles per hour according to the police report. The actual estimated speed was closer to 120 mph. He was 21.

For 20 years I grieved. I mourned. And I was sick,  both physically and mentally. I still have days, but it’s only been the past few years I have begun to let go, and develop a life, despite the deaths of my boys. 

It took years of counseling, prayers, study, and frankly, just having to go through it. There are no easy answers. There are no answers at all. No amount of sickness or health, time or “healing” will ever change the fact that they are gone, and I have to live the rest of my life without them. 

So, my rant is that, even though some alcohol is vegan, and if you drink, it’s your business, if you drink and drive, you make it my business. Deaths due to impaired driving are totally preventable! No one deserves to die because of your choice to drink. 

I am remembering my pain and anguish and anger this memorial season. But I am also remembering the lives of the two who changed my life the most in this world, living or dead. 

They were joy to me. They were as different as they looked! But they had one thing in common… They loved their mom. 

And that love transcends time, life, death, all bounds. That is what I cling to now. I know they are with me in spirit, and I know I will see them again when I cross through the veil of death, and life is good now. I’m healthier than I have been in years, certainly happier, but right now I’m just missing my boys. 

What memories did you share this Memorial Day? 

A Pocketful of Joy to Fill Your Day 

Wellness Wednesday, May 24, 2017

Dinner was a veggie bowl from Chipotle. It’s not a very pleasing picture, because I already mixed it up, but it was delicious! 

As I mentioned last week, I have kidney stones, and in order to keep from developing more, I need to eat a low oxalate diet, which means I can’t have most beans, greens, or nuts. Pretty sad for a vegan. 

But I can have a lot of other things, like corn, red potatoes, lentils, lettuce, flax seed, broccoli, cauliflower, and cabbage. 

So, my veggie bowl consists of brown rice, romaine lettuce, corn salsa, pico de gayo, and guacamole, and I added some flax seed when we got home. I also had a side of soft corn tortillas. So good, and so filling! I couldn’t eat more than half, but that just gives me more for later! 

Just because I can’t eat some food, doesn’t mean I can’t eat healthy. I will be sharing with you some of my recipes for a healthy vegan low oxalate diet. 

Food is good! 

What are some of your healthy ideas? 

A Pocketful of Joy to Fill Your Day  

Wellness Wednesday, May 17, 2017

Update on my garden. 

It’s looking a little sad,  but it’s still producing a lot of good food. 

The plan for tomorrow is to make a vegan caprese salad, with lettuce, tomatoes, and basil from the garden, and vegan mozzarella and balsamic vinegar. I’ll take a picture and post it next week. 

It would be better, but even vegans get sick. I  spent the week before my birthday in the hospital with kidney stones. One was 8mm and completely blocked my left kidney. I now have a tube in my back, will have lithotripsy to blast the stones so they can pass, and about a week after that, they’ll remove the tube. 

Meanwhile, I can’t do very much, so my garden is slightly neglected. Hubby does the best he can, but taking care of me and our home, and working full-time, there’s only so many hours in a day. 

And now I have to tweak my diet yet again. Low oxalate foods, so I won’t keep developing stones. I’ll update you on that when I post my salad picture. 

For now, the order of the day is rest. 

What are you cooking tonight for Wellness Wednesday? 

A Pocketful of Joy to Fill Your Day 

Wellness Wednesday, May 10, 2017

My first harvest of cherry tomatoes! I’m going to make a salad with my lettuce, and add mixed herbs, rice, beans, and maybe I’ll grill some marinated tofu. Yum! I’ll post a picture when I get it done. 

What is something healthy you’re making today? 

A Pocketful of Joy to Fill Your Day